I met a person on Sunday that I have met before. In fact she often shows up when things begin to happen in the church. She can be so frustrating as she is often demanding and very difficult to work with. People struggle to relate to her and will actually allow her to ruin their day. I don't really like her. I'm just being honest but the real problem with her is......I invited her to church.
I know, what was I thinking? She doesn't need to be saved, she really doesn't even need the church but sometimes I just can't help myself. Oh I'm not the only one who invites her, others have invited her to come too but I can't blame them for Sunday. Nope I brought her.
Who is she? She is Miss Understanding and I want to share a few things about her.
1. I invite her when I don't communicate clearly to others. When I am not clear in my expectations or instructions it invites miss understanding into the ministry.
2. I invite her in when I don't ask good questions of those to whom I am doing ministry with. If I don't understand what is going on with something that directly involves me it is my fault and not others. If I don't have the answers I need than I am the one responsible to ask the questions.
3. I invite her in when I am not prepared well. Miss Understanding is a direct product of my lack of preparation for what God is calling me to do. She comes in when I over commit, when I am lazy, and when I don't take my responsibility seriously.
I wish she would never come to church but she will, and when she does there are a couple of things I can do.
I can apologize for not communicating instead of placing blame on others. Even if I told them and they didn't understand, the responsibility for understanding clearly lies with the speaker not the hearer.
I can ask more questions of those I am doing life with. Rarely will you find someone getting upset because you asked too many questions but you will find them always getting upset because you miss understood and didn't ask.
and finally, I can realize my responsibility to prepare well for what God is calling me to do. I can say no to doing too much, I can recognize how my laziness affects others and makes more work for them, and I can take what I do seriously. My life impacts others in everything I do even being alone.
and you know what, Miss Understanding can hurt your home just as much as the church. Whether you are a child or an adult you too can refuse to allow her to live in your home.
Communicate clearly to your family
Ask good Questions of your family
and Prepare well for your family and you know what, she will never darken your doorstep.
Sunday was Awesome other than her.
Have a Great week Lifers